Crucial Skills®

I’m in a crisis with my husband. For years we have been at each other, and I’d like to change that. I only recently learned how to set a boundary—and I’m 55—but I’m struggling to hold a boundary with my husband around name-calling. I don’t want him to call me names, but stopping the argument or refusing to engage feels confrontational and counterproductive, even selfish. How can I set boundaries with him without making matters worse?